What I learned from my favorite authors and my weekend stories.
(Warning: this blog article is long. Today is Sunday I’m in a mood to share! 😉
There are many good business book authors but over the past years I’ve been loving the books of T.Harv Eker, Ben Horowitz, Robert Cialdini and Stephen Covey. Their thoughts, personal and business experiences, and insightful tips on how to live your life to the fullest are simply helpful to my soul.
I learned the entrepreneurship mind actions (how not to be lazy) by T. Harv Eker, I learned how to make tough management decisions (how a CEO takes actions) by Ben Horowitz, I learned how the game of psychology (six principles of influence) by Robert Cialdini and I learned the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (how to live my life to fullest) by Stephen Covey.
These guys are my real heroes who influenced my life today. And because of them I learned how to make my weekdays productive and weekends the best.
Many of my friends are wondering how come you can run a business, study an MBA, look after a family and have time to update your blog? Some of them perhaps doubt that I can really work on multiple roles and I’m a multi-tasking. However, my article isn’t my attempt to show you I’m a “superwoman”. I am writing to share with you what I’ve learned from the business book authors I’ve been admiring over the past seven years.
According to T. Harv Eker, if you’re busy as an employee but if you have great business idea. Don’t wait for next 4-5 years to make things happen. Get in the game. Consider a situation or project you’ve wanted to start. Whatever you’ve being waiting for, forget it. Begin now from wherever you are with whatever you’ve got. If possible, do it while working for or with someone else, first, to learn the ropes. If you’ve already learned, no more excuses. Go for it!
“I step-in the cosmetics business from ‘good ideas’ even before I fully understand everything. However, to validate those ideas I reached out to people who can help me.”
According to Ben Horowitz, many people are excited to build a business but not many of them know how to deal with the consequences of their decisions. In his book, “The Hard About Hard Things”, I learned how a founder should decide despite obstacles, pressure and insecurities.
“I confront my fears and take necessary actions to solve a problem.”
According to Robert Cialdini we are trained from birth to believe that obedience to proper authority is right and disobedience is wrong. This is exactly the same principles of many religious people. We learn in this story that that correctness of an action was not judged by such considerations as apparent senselessness, harmfulness, injustice or usual more standards, but by the mere command of a higher authority ( © Australian Institute of Business).
“When I was younger, my grandma advised me to marry a Filipino-Chinese, [perhaps] run in the politics and live in the Philippines. I didn’t listen not because I disrespect her advise but because I believe I can be someone else if I create my own destiny. I didn’t marry a local guy, I’m not a politician and I live overseas. I do not have regrets in this decision.”
According to Stephen Covey, being proactive is the key to success. In the first version of The Seven Habits book he said that life is what we choose to make it. We choose to be happy, we choose to be organized, and we choose to be courageous. He encourages readers to be positively proactive in their life, both at work and personally, and as such success will follow. He also advised that in order to get what you want in life, both out of yourself and your employees or colleagues, prioritizing is essential. You must know and understand your priorities, and ensure that you follow through on tasks that you would like to see completed.
“After reading his book in 2015, I collected my thoughts in business, I organized it, I pitched to get funded, I focused on my family life, I re-connected with people, I cooked to feed my passion, and I revised my blog to share my experience. I became proactive, unafraid and engaging.”
Here are few things that perhaps you don’t know about me. Before running a business (for the 2nd time), I spent an incredible amount of time in my kitchen. I can cook! 🙂 You read it right, I can cook really well from scratch because it is my passion, I love to eat and I don’t mind to gain weight here and there. So, whilst working on the business plan some years ago, I did a lot of cooking and also, I was a full-time mama.
Tofu and brown rice when I attempted to lose weight. lol
I made barley juice to help me lose weight.
Every weekend, I make nice meals for the family. The boys love good burgers. I marinated the meat balls in the morning before I cook it for lunch.
Aglio olio pasta.
Back in 2011, I didn’t really care about mobile phone. I only used J’s 2nd hand Blackberry and I chat with family over BBM. No one message me anyway, he he.
In this photo, I was waiting for the meat to cook so while waiting I chill in the balcony. It was stolen shots by J. At that time it wasn’t a big deal but today I realized it was the sweetest time of our life where I make time to cook for him.
Can I say that I took my cooking seriously? lol I made a list for meal preparation and timing for cooking.
Japanese udon for dinner.
Made a dough.
Preparing for the chicken
I marinated the tandoori chicken for an overnight.
I made ravioli pasta.
I made brekky on Saturday using this Japanese pan that I received from Jon and Waki. 🙂
I was making the dough for naan.
Saturday morning when I made the dough for the boys’ brekky.
Tandoori chicken and garlic naan for lunch.
The fresh baked bread, eggs and strawberry jam I made for the boys’ breakfast. I like to make strawberry jams so I can control the amount of sugar.
Drying the fresh made pasta.
I was making spices for the pasta sauce.
For meat balls.
Pasta for the boys’ dinner. The tomatoes are baked and cooked to make it a sauce.
I baked sponge cake with mangoes on top. I caramelized the sugar.
Ragoût de bœuf for dinner.
“Cooking is like relationship. You must know the right ingredients, cook it in perfect time and serve it with love.” – Kathleen Godfroy
Ragoût de bœuf with fresh baked breads.
Fresh made tempeh.
I made pasta noodles with spinach. My arms are sanitized of course.
Apple pie, the Minnesotan way. Oh yeah. 🙂
The most challenging food I’ve ever cooked! Roasted duck. I dried it for 7 hours.
Those times my only happiness was to pick up my son at school, have a dinner date with him, bath him in the evening before night night (we like it when he is clean, lol) and reading bed time stories in the evening. I may not be the best friend you will ever have but I am the best mama to my son. Since I was convinced that I can be a mother, I made it sure that I will be a responsible one. In fact, I am ready to have a second child but I just don’t know when. he he.
There were also Saturdays that I brought my son for brunch date in down town. He appreciated that I choose cool clothes for him and we have besties bonding over food.
Our favourite weekend is always about creating time to play.
The time has changed and so my weekends.
I started my MBA in 2017, I start-up a business and I moved into my condo apartment in north of Singapore. I love that I have beautiful views from the balcony, how friendly and warm everyone is, it is near the local kopitiams, and the location is beautiful to live and play.
Some Saturdays I have classes at school. I both love my ‘me time’ in the reading area and ‘peer time’ where I hang out with classmates over lunch.
Now, I made a commitment that some Saturdays I will spend it in Indonesia to give my support to our operation team.
I am no longer cooking like before but I still have an eye for good meals. On Saturday morning, I spend it with family and friends.
Some Saturdays after lunch I walk around to do street photography (my Flickr isn’t updated).
My 2nd favourite part of my home is the bathroom where I enjoy using all my skincare products.
No matter how things changed, I still love making meals for family. I want to be that mum that you can rely on weekend.
I don’t always fancy expensive meals. Sometimes I like low-key meals at kopitam. Here’s my favourite Chinese chicken with salted egg.
I make time to read a book by the pool. Reading a book feeds my soul.
On Sunday mornings, I enjoy drinking good coffee in the balcony. I also make time to check my messages on Whatsapp. My favourite? To catch up with friends online.
Thank you, Rajes and Sean for the lovely mug.
I always desire to be a good friend to everyone. However, my schedule sucks and I have limited time to meet everyone I love. I want to be that friend that you can count on, that you can trust to share your secrets and someone who can help you during difficult times. I am still learning to improve my relationship with people and I would say, I am becoming a better friend than I was few years ago. lol
Did I tell you that I love receiving stationery gifts because I can use it when I read my books? 😉
Some Saturdays I travel in town to do street photography.
I work out to burn stress and my fat belly. lol
I also visit fancy groceries to check their champagne and sweet wine (I don’t like whiskey).
At my age, I learned the hard way. I focus on what I have, not on what I don’t have. I try to make a list of things I like to maintain and grateful for. Few of those things are having a supportive family, fantastic friends and awesome business partners. My business partners, Josh and Sebastian are surprisingly becoming my best friends. We don’t always agree with each other’s views and sometimes we [respectfully] argued here and there. But that’s what good friendship is for. You build it with respect and work on your differences with each other. We learned to practice optimism, whatever is the problem we face it and reframe it into an opportunity. I also appreciates that they respect me in a professional level.
So, whenever people have doubts if J is behind all my work or school homework, my initial reaction is either I laugh or I defend myself because when you see a woman who works hard, it is not appropriate to give the credits to the man she is in a relationship with. It is hard to be a woman and it is even harder if you are from a third world country where your skills, knowledge and education will always be subjected to doubt. My job is not to please everyone to be impressed of my profile. My job is to support my family and enjoy my new weekends. 🙂
Have a lovely weekend. And to all stay-at-home mums, non-working mothers, and housewives who subscribed to my blog, please enjoy your family time because few years later, you will realize those times you spend with your child will be the most important memories in your family life.
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